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How to Help Your Child Rule Their Emotions

Children need to learn to control their emotions or their emotions will control them. As a parent, it is your job to teach them how to do this. This article will give you some tools and ideas on how to handle this and how to teach your child to be in control of themselves through various common emotions.

First, take a moment to watch these two very short videos.

Video with child hitting mom:

https://www.facebook.com/Halos.Angel.Eyes/videos/10210383768926892/UzpfSTEwMDAwNDA0MDMzMDA4MToxMzc2NDY0MDI1ODMxNTk1/

Video of child crying about dreams about waffles:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpTjFhA09kQ

The first video is an example of a mom who has completely lost control of her children. They are ruled by their inappropriate responses to their emotions and she has allowed it. The second is an example of something that some people think is cute. I believe it is sad and worrisome. This video shows a child who is not in control of her own mind and her own emotions, and the person filming her doesn’t understand the problem. Part of the problem today is some child psychologists have determined that nearly every problem found in childhood is some kind of disorder in the child rather than a parenting issue. There is nothing wrong with most children. Most children who misbehave do so because of a lack of appropriate parenting responses. Let's first look at a "disorder" described by child psychologists.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Here’s the definition: “A disorder in a child marked by defiant and disobedient behavior to authority figures. Treatment can help, but this condition can't be cured Chronic: can last for years or be lifelong Requires a medical diagnosis Lab tests or imaging not required The cause of oppositional defiant disorder is unknown but likely involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Symptoms generally begin before a child is eight years old. They include irritable mood, argumentative and defiant behavior, aggression, and vindictiveness that last more than six months and cause significant problems at home or school.”

Here are some of the symptoms described: Your child throws huge tantrums when he gets home from school, and the consequences for acting out only make him more agitated. Simple reminders, like to put socks in the hamper and not on the floor, trigger aggression or meltdowns. Consequences don’t work, nor do they seem to have any impact on behavior. Your child just doesn’t take rules seriously. You’re like a broken record. Your child hears, but ig