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Sibling Rivalry: Strategies for Parents

The thought of the subject of sibling rivalry causes many parents a quick pain right in their heart. The dilemma of dealing with children who are constantly bickering can be one of the most frustrating and discouraging parts of parenting. On the other hand, the joy associated with watching brothers and sisters getting along, playing and encouraging one another can be one of the most rewarding.

The truth is, we don’t choose our siblings, our children or our parents. God does that. In the end, we are blessed with (or stuck with) the personalities of each without any escape from the fact that these are our relatives… and will be as long as we are on this earth. Sounds a bit glum. But, think about this. We have an opportunity to learn how to get along with anyone with the experiences we gain from dealing with those in our own families. So, whether we have awesome relationships with those who are members of our clan, or if we have challenges in that area, the experience and insight we can glean from our interactions with them is a true blessing.

Remember the three things that every child should know that allow for effective parenting. They must know:

  1. They are loved.

  2. You know what is best for them.

  3. You will make sure what’s best for them is done.

As with any subject we will ever cover in Mentor4Moms, these three points matter and are the basis for effective parenting and a good relationship with your child. If any one of these is missing, the outcome of the methods presented will not work nearly as well.

Looking at the first of these three… they know they are loved… this is one of the basics for squelching sibling rivalry. Let’s examine the word “rivalry”. The definition is as follows: