Wouldn't it be lovely to be able to go to the store with a young preschool child and not worry about their behavior? No concern that they will have a bratty fit, become demanding or scream their head off in public? One of the most frustrating things about parenting young children can be the underlying thought that those little sweethearts are actually leading you around, rather than you leading them. You want so much to teach, train, and direct them, but at times it seems impossible! So, what to do? This post starts with the basics, and a simple method to stop the fits! Read on to find out how to BE THE MOM: HOW TO TAKE CHARGE. You can also listen to the podcast "BE THE MOM: How to Take Charge" !
The first thing to do is ask yourself a few questions to get a picture of who is really in charge. Be honest!
Do you make decisions based upon what you believe your child’s response will be? Or, do you make decisions based upon what you know is best for the child?
When you want your child to do something, do you ask them if they want to do it? Or do you tell them what you expect of them? (For example: "Susie, do you want to eat your peas?" OR "Susie, eat your peas.") If you tell your children to do something, what is their response? What are your children’s expectations of you - when you give them a command? What kind of defiant behaviors does your child display? How do you handle defiance? If the answers are not what they should be to the above questions, it is likely that a few things need to change in order for you to really and truly BE THE MOM. Asserting your authority should happen because you love them and want what is best for them. They are children. THEY do not know what is best. You do. In order for you to parent effectively, they must know three things: